Advice Unplugged: I Think My New Friend Wants To Date Me?
Thomas helps a sender who thinks a new friend might fancy them...
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I Think My New Friend Wants To Date Me?
Hi Thomas, I have never listened to your show before but I am really enjoying it. I have recently met a new friend, and I can feel us becoming closer and closer friends. He is quite attractive and we are the same age (17). He has been in the same group of friends as me for a while now, but we had never spoken until a week ago. I do find him attractive, but I don’t think I would ever want to date him. I am worried that he is into me and perhaps wants to date me which would put our friendship on the line. I don’t know this for sure, but I have a feeling. At the same time though, he is known for being naturally flirtatious so maybe I am reading this wrong? HELP!
Dear Anonymous Online The Line, Thank you for your message and welcome to the show! I am happy to hear that you are enjoying the programme.
There are a lot of factors at work here, but first and foremost we must remember not to read too much into things which can be exactly as they appear. As your friend is known to be naturally flirtatious - he may just be being the way he normally is: friendly and flirty.
As of your message he has not asked you out and you have not according to your explanation have seen him other than with your friends. Befriending someone is always a great thing - the "getting to know you stage", learning about each other and just becoming generally familiar with the overall likes and dislikes of a person. Do not be confused with "getting to know you" and "wanting to date you". At this stage friendship comes first and the components of friendship may often times seem like dating someone without the "date" if you know what I mean.
Don't rush things and do not make too many decisions without giving time and people chances. When we limit ourselves, we often miss out on life changing experiences. Just play it cool, don't read into things and let this friendship naturally blossom. Let me know how you make out...
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